Free companion resource
Real Self Reflection Companion
A reflective inventory for noticing Real Self contact, protective adaptations, parts, abandonment pain, desire, boundaries, intimacy, work, and daily self-return.
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Free Real Self Companion Resources
Practical reflection tools adapted from the books to help you notice the Real Self, understand protective adaptations, and meet old pain without turning healing into another performance.
Book One companion resources
Developing the Real Self
These companion resources are adapted from Developing the Real Self: Personality, Defenses, Abandonment Depression, and the Life That Is Actually Yours. They are rewritten for web use so they can stand alone as free tools while pointing back to the fuller clinical context of the book.
Coming soon
Protective Parts Map
A free tool for identifying the parts that protect you through pleasing, controlling, performing, rescuing, withdrawing, criticizing, or becoming invisible.
Coming soon
Abandonment Depression Reflection Map
A gentle companion for noticing sadness, anger, fear, guilt, hopelessness, helplessness, emptiness, and the defenses that rise around them.
The book behind the resource
For the deeper clinical context
The free tools can help you notice patterns. The book gives the fuller framework for understanding the Real Self, protective adaptations, abandonment depression, boundaries, intimacy, grief, work, creativity, and the life that is actually yours.
The Real Self Series
Developing the Real Self
Personality, Defenses, Abandonment Depression, and the Life That Is Actually Yours
A compassionate, depth-oriented guide to the Real Self, False Self adaptation, protective defenses, abandonment depression, and the slow recovery of authentic feeling, desire, choice, grief, boundaries, intimacy, creativity, and calling.
